Did you know that 95% of people have shunned their New Year resolutions by Easter each year? Being consistent – committing to and doing something every day has always been something I really struggled with, so it’s comforting to hear that I’m not alone in this.
I’ve always had the excuse of being a ‘busy’ person, spinning many hats simultaneously, travelling and living out of a suitcase for several nights every month. A real barrier to joining clubs or doing anything which required ‘commitment’ for more than a week. A daily routine was just something I never had the time or the inclination for. Then there was ‘Wanda’, my inner critic giving me the “You don’t need to follow this programme for results girl – You can do this yourself! – Hey you’re an intelligent woman; a skillful coach – you help others to achieve their goals, so why can’t you do this yourself when you have all the resources you need to get this done?”. Layer this with my rear view mirror inner critic who starts up with “You’ve tried that before remember, and it didn’t work last time, so what’s the point starting it all again”? Hardly surprising I’ve never managed to stick at anything for too long before is it?
Self development has always been a passion of mine, and since breaking free from a stifling marriage 9 years ago I have found a greater connection to my inner strength. Peeling back and challenging each fear has been like paring through the skins of an onion.
I now have a chance to take care of me – to nurture a love for myself that has created inner peace and let me notice gentle changes that are occurring.
I kept hearing about The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod – where you wake up an hour earlier and use the time to fuel yourself with all the components required to set you up for success; journaling, reading, meditation, visualizing your goals and exercising before starting your day. A lot of my community were raving about it – so much so that I found myself ordering a copy at the start of the ‘lockdown’ – just to be curious you know!
I love books and have quite a library, but why can’t the information be infused through touch, like osmosis?
Reading a book right the way through was something I felt required the gift of ‘me’ time to do. I always associated reading with pleasure, and somehow struggled to allow myself time for this in my schedule. The only reading I really allowed myself was on a sunbed on holiday, usually a racy novel. But here I was striding through these pages. Recognising all the arguments I had already had with myself, but finding a curiosity which found me ready to take action. I was already writing in my journal before I got up, so I just started adding in the other elements. After week one, I actually found myself waking up early without the alarm. The reading was effortless and I was chomping my way through my unread library with a voracious appetite. I have even re-read books that were particular favourites, especially ‘It’s Not Your Money’ by Tosha Silver.
So what was the trigger for this change?
It started when i realised that for 2 months I had taken a daily supplement of drops and a pill. How had I managed this? By putting them by the kettle, so I took them first thing whilst I waited for the kettle to boil. As I tipped up the empty bottle, the realisation that for 60 days I had been CONSISTENT was elating. I know it sounds like a stupidly small achievement , but from small things, bigger things grow, and that is just what has happened. Habits take a while to embed, but I’m several weeks in now and still embracing the miracle of my morning!
What have I noticed? Consistency appearing in other areas of my life. I am also being a lot kinder to myself and ‘Wanda’, my inner critic, has noticed this too, and has subtly quietened. I think my ego is easing and allowing me to step into my fears and to challenge myself.
Sometimes life is a bitter pill to swallow, but for me that pill has been my best medicine.
Recognising that small change has made a massive difference to my life.
What small change would positively impact your life?
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